Today didn’t go as planned, and honestly, I’m grateful…

God’s been really working on my heart when it comes to be flexible with changed plans.

Don’t ask me how that’s going so far… it’s a process okay?!

But then it got me thinking about how I cling so tightly to the outcomes of things that look like success in the eyes of the world. Selling out a retreat in 24hrs (sometimes it happens, most of the time it doesn’t, booking every spot for a Motherhood Event (most of the time not every single seat gets sold and I end up trading or giving some away) or maybe it’s cricket engagement on a post that I thought was going to go viral…

what I do now instead

Here are three things I assess to quickly change my mindset when it comes to being let down when things don’t go as planned.

I have been training myself to stop and pray over each and every event that I offer, whether it’s spring sessions or a big retreat and I ask for success but I also ask for the RIGHT women, the right families, the right mommas get connected with me and sometimes that means that things shouldn’t sell out right away because someone who really needs a spot wasn’t on social media that day.
Think about it this way. The family who is your ideal client, they may not be on social media much, they may not even be on your email list yet, but because you surrendered the outcome to the Lord and patiently waited, that one special family found you at the right time and now you booked them and all of their friends that also are ideal clients for you.
Learn what to do better! Hey guess what sometimes you’re offering isn’t aligning with what people are wanting to it’s time to pivot. It doesn’t mean what you’re offering is wrong, it means that your language isn’t landing. Say, you offer minis with a floral set up but that’s been done so much that people aren’t really looking for a pop up. You can change location or REFRAME it. Instead of promoting it as “floral minis,” reposition it around the experience or outcome, like “spring storybook portraits” or “a dreamy garden session that captures soft, timeless family moments,” so clients connect with the feeling and value rather than just the setup.
Let things go completely. Sometimes what I learn when it comes to adjusting my expectations is when to completely let go of something and run hard toward other things that are bringing my life and energy and that really resonate with people.
I let go of mini sessions completely because I couldn’t do my best work and they weren’t selling out like they used to. I added more value and my prices went up which meant my ideal client is looking for something more than a rushed 20min session. My ideal client is looking for an extremely personal experience so that is where I put my time and energy now. Creating an excellent experience for my mommas and families.

It may seem like such a bummer at first for things to not go the way you want them to.

But this is your opportunity to pivot and grow and evolve with your business!

My biggest TIP

Run hard after the things that light you up and set your soul on fire! Your energy and love for what you do will be seen.

Don’t hide behind what you “should” be doing. Post, share, be EXCITED about what you offer and WHY. This is going to resonate with people so genuinely.